Empowering Widows & Finding Strength in Unique Journeys.

I don’t care for the term grief expert! Who wants to be an expert in grief? Not me!

To me that means you have experienced every type of loss imaginable, and I think that would be a terrible burden to bear. I like to refer to myself as an Experienced Griever. I’ve have survived many losses in my lifetime from leaving home at the age of 16, my physical safety, changing jobs, death of grandparents, end of friendships, relationships, divorce, and my own identity but the most significant have been the recent cumulative losses. The loss of my Godson, my Husband, my Eye to a rare cancer Ocular Melanoma, my Brother, and a life changing diagnosis of Stage IV liver cancer.

So, what makes me different than any other Widow? Absolutely nothing!

But we all have a story and mine is a story of resilience!

Over the past 5 years I have struggled with grief like every other person until I realized I was the one putting limitations on my grief! I was the one holding myself back from moving forward and living life. I was the one keeping myself from being happy. I am the one stopping myself from loving again.

Everyone says there is no right or wrong way to grieve, but we still keep ourselves in line with societal norms. There are these unspoken rules of grief and how we should live our lives until the time society deems we are ready to move forward.

You must be sad enough to prove you are grieving, but not so sad to be considered depressed. You can cry, but not so much that it makes others uncomfortable. You can talk about your spouse, but only on special occasions when it’s more appropriate.